Thursday, May 10, 2007


"Transform your thoughts into positive ones. It is a mistake to think that everyone is bad. Some people are wicked, that's true, but that doesn't mean everyone is. There are also many people who have a noble and generous spirit."

- Dalai Lama

Sometimes we fall in with the wrong crowd. If we are inexperienced, the crowd we hang with can seem to us the norm, no matter how petty or mean-spirited they are. We might not even know to expect better of people than the people we're with.

The path away from our false friends is usually difficult. Not only must we break off contact with them, but we must also change our expectations of people. It's that latter part -- changing our expectations -- that many people fail to accomplish.

Yet, if we don't change our expectations of people when we break away from a bad friend or a group of friends, we are so much more likely to wind up back with the same sort of people. You see that all the time. Someone you know leaves an abusive lover, for instance, only to find the same sort of lover again. Or, someone leaves a group of mean-spirited friends only to find another group of mean-spirited friends. When changing from a bad crowd to a better crowd, it is vital to change our expectations too.

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